Jealousy: Does it Inspire or Block You? – Doreen Virtue

Jealousy is often confused with envy, but jealousy is actually a fear of losing something or someone that is valuable to us, while envy means feeling pain while desiring something or somebody.

For example, one might feel jealous because a spouse is talking with an attractive member of the opposite sex. The jealousy stems from fears that the spouse likes the new person better. There’s a fear of losing the marriage, companionship, and love.

A person might feel envy when looking at someone who seems to have more that he or she does – a better house, car, marriage, body, job, or education. The essential question about envy is: do you use it to inspire or to block you?

– DO YOU admire a friend’s toned figure and vow to get in shape yourself, or do you curse her under your breath and avoid her?

– DO YOU admire a beautiful mansion, knowing that you too could own such a house if you really wanted to, or do you feel that rich people are evil and crooked?

– DO YOU admire a neighbour’s new car and feel inspired to go car-shopping yourself, or do you judge her to be showing off?

Envy is definitely a double-edged sword that can block or inspire your personal success. After Oprah lost weight using her low-fat diet combned with exercise, many viewers wrote to comment on how she’d changed.

The letters fell into two main categories: those viewers who detested Oprah’s new weight, complaining they could no longer relate to her; and those viewers who admired her successful weight loss.

Studies show that the most successful people are those who are fuelled and inspired by other people’s victories. Unsuccessful people, on the other hand, are often threatened by others’ successes, as if the successful perosn were stealing some opportunity from the unsuccessful one.

You may want to observe your thoughts and feelings when you are in the company of succesful people or when you see a desired object or condition. Notice, without judgement, whether others’ achievements inspire your hopes or deflate them. Vow to reprogram any negatie reactions towards others’ success.

View other’s successes as inspiration and confirmation that you, too, can have whatever you want. Tell yourself, without a trace of bitterness, that everyone, including yourself, deserves to have a peaceful, pleasurable life. If there’s something about another’s life that really excites you, use that feeling to motivate you! Be thankful that the other person helped you uncover your goals, so you’re now clear about what you want.

Doreen Virtue is a spiritual doctor of psychology and a fourth-generation metaphysician who works with the angelic, elemental, and ascended-master realms in her writings and workshops. Doreen is holding her Angel Intuive workshop on the Sunshine Coast, November 2010. For more info, CLICK HERE.

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2 Responses to “Jealousy: Does it Inspire or Block You? – Doreen Virtue”
  1. Katren Gardner says:

    It is my opinion that jealousy/envy is directly coming from the ego side of one’s personality and creates harmful vibrations and uneasiness in both mind and body. When we admire something or someone is it not better to set out to achieve the dream if it is not already ours. Alternatively one could always praise the person for their achievement be it material or personal and if wanting to achieve a similar situation simply put it out there and manifest it for yourself.

  2. I find it so incredibly motivating when I see and hear of other people doing well and achieving their dreams. For me, it’s not about jealously, it’s about seeing what others are achieving and realising that it is within my reach also. I use the success of others to propel me forward.

    I will admit that this wasn’t always the case and I feel truly blessed that I opened myself up to a world without envy and one that is full of spirituality and joy.

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