Are You Flying First Class? – Sonia Choquette

When on life’s journey, you have a choice in the manner in which you choose to fly. You can travel on standby, waiting for others to give you permission to get onboard; economy class, which allows you to get where you want to go without any frills, comforts, or ease of flow; or first class, which makes the trip a real pleasure.

No matter what class you choose, the flight pattern is the same: you are born, you live your life, and then you die. How you travel, however, is up to you. Standby is a gamble. Economy is a struggle. First class is a joy. Although going first class provides a more beautiful and comfortable journey, it also asks more of us, the travelers, to have this experience. Economy class, on the other hand, is a far less consciously demanding way to travel. It gets us where we want to go, but often involves—even encourages—a lot of drama, discomfort, and indifference with respect to the joyful spirit of life. Standby, the least creative way to live, is life lived completely unconsciously. It is the default option for those who are unreflective, irresponsible, and ill prepared; and is the choice of those suffering from addictions or other self-destructive behaviors.

What is important to remember is that it’s not the destination, but the journey itself, that our conscious awareness affects. As the saying goes, “You get what you give.” While economy class might seem more accessible, the experience along the way will most likely be far more energetically costly to you, fraught with far more irritations, aggravations, disappointments, missed opportunities, and psychic insults to the spirit than a first-class trip would embody.

The good news is that when it comes to the journey of life, anyone can travel first class. Although it may feel as if you have no choice in how you journey, that standby or economy is all you can look forward to or all you can afford, that’s not really true. It is really all you are affording yourself.

Let me be clear—I’m not suggesting you must physically travel on the Earth plane in first class, because that’s not the point. What I am suggesting is that the quality of your spiritual journey, your experience of life, can be first class if you want it to be.

And that offer is not one you can buy. Traveling first class in life is a privilege you must earn, and you do this by choosing love over fear. It doesn’t always come easily (although it gets easier and easier), but it does allow you the finest quality of experience on your journey. To travel first class in life is to travel at the speed of love. It requires that you travel much more consciously, making a far greater effort to be in charge of your experience, yet it is open and available to anyone willing to make the necessary effort to upgrade.

To travel at the speed of love is to decide that the upgrade is worth it. To travel at the speed of love is to confront your fears, including defensiveness, anger, judgment, abandonment, and insecurity; and consciously reject those patterns in preference of a better, more loving attitude.

How to Upgrade

Can you upgrade your journey? Yes! Anyone who is willing to ask for more from life and make the effort to get it, who wants to enjoy his or her life experience rather than suffer and be a victim of it, can travel at the speed of love. The only requirement is that you be open to loving life—your life—fully, and view everyone and everything as a learning opportunity for your soul. Yes, everyone and everything!

To love something doesn’t mean you have to like it, approve of it, or even desire it. It simply means to accept that this is what is happening, and if it’s not happening in a way that uplifts you, know that you have a choice in how to respond. You can be a victim of it or send it and yourself more love so that your response to it will transform into one that is proactive, creative, and ultimately right for you.

It is challenging to travel first class in life, as I’m sure you can think of many people and things you do not love. I’m not suggesting that you love being in pain, or love the awful and even evil things that can be a part of life, but rather that you love that you are alive, and that you respond to all your life experiences with love. Once you decide to love your life and accept it all with the choice to respond with love, you will never turn back and ride the coach class of fear again. Once you’ve experienced this more liberated and peaceful way of living you’ll want it, crave it, and insist that it’s the only way to fly.

Yes, I know loving it all seems like an impossible order, and it is certainly a challenging one. I can think of quite a few things in front of me right now, both on the personal and political horizon that, from an ego viewpoint, frustrate and even enrage my sense of righteousness, and I don’t love them all. And yet, the energy of anger and resentment only throws my personal flight into a tailspin.

For example, you may hate your body. To project this energy onto your body, however, causes depression, anxiety, embarrassment, and low self-esteem, all of which we know will not create a peaceful, loving flow. Because of these negative frequencies traveling through your body, you may be attracted to negative choices, such as eating a pint of Häagen-Dazs ice cream while watching reality shows on weight loss, staying up and playing computer games into the wee hours of the morning instead of getting a good night’s rest, or sneaking cigarettes while walking the dog—choices that only cause your body to feel worse than before, creating a vicious downward spiral.

To love your body, on the other hand, and accept what is with your body at the moment will start to free the blocked and stagnant energy that keeps your body from being the vehicle you prefer. When you treat your body in a loving way—nurturing it with healthful foods, giving it the exercise and sleep it needs—it will respond by becoming a body that you do love. The key is to shift the focus of your attention to ways to love your body by treating it in a way that it serves its needs best.

Another way to love your body is to appreciate how hearty it is, even if it isn’t exactly behaving or looking the way you’d like it to. For example, if you’re chubby around the middle, acknowledge that you can still be mobile and get around. Then, in appreciation of this fact, go for a short walk every day. If your teeth are crooked and a little stained, be grateful that you have teeth at all, then take a little more time brushing and flossing in appreciation of that fact. If you have digestive problems that cause you to be bloated and gassy, be glad that your body lets you know what isn’t good for it, therefore probably saving you from much more serious gastric conditions later. In appreciation of that fact, be a little more mindful of what foods cause your body to react so negatively. The point is, whatever your dislike or frustration, it could be worse, so turn your attitude around and love the full human experience, including the challenges and frustrations you may be experiencing.

Flying First Class Is Natural

Choosing to travel through your journey in fear and negativity, as most people do, goes against the flow of nature, against the flow of life, and against the flow of Divine grace. It causes you to remain below the clouds of doom and gloom and prevents you from reaching the higher altitude where the sun really is always shining.

So in the long run, the seemingly easier and more seductive way of living in fear is actually very expensive. It costs you positive connection, synchronistic support, ease, flow, grace, and personal joy. It will cost you present relationships and prevent positive future ones. It costs you health, vitality, good humor, creativity, and intuition. It costs you your life.

I just spoke with a client recently, Linda, who was married to a highly negative and fearful man, although he had many positive things going for him in life, including a beautiful 100-acre farm, a family of six devoted and healthy children who helped him on the farm in their spare time even though they had families and children of their own, and his loving wife, who stuck by his side in every way. They had no money problems, no addictions or dramas among their children, and they had a lot to be thankful for. And yet, in spite of his blessings, he was the bearer of an endless litany of doom and gloom, singing what Linda called the “lions and tigers and bears . . . oh my” blues. He was dreary, miserable, and ungrateful for everything in his life. He blasted the government, the economy, the neighbors, the weather, and anything else he could conjure up. All was fair game for his assaults and insults.

Linda lived with him as long as she could, but after she had a breast-cancer scare, she decided she’d had enough of his misery and moved into an apartment of her own just to get away from him. After she left, so did the kids, one at a time, because without her they found him even worse to bear. Eighteen months after she left, she received a call from the neighbors. Her husband had suffered a stroke and was on his way to the hospital. He was so debilitated that he was put in a nursing home “Now he has created the misery he always feared,” said Linda. “It’s a shame it had to be this way.”

Can you upgrade your journey? Yes! Anyone who is willing to ask for more from life and make the effort to get it, who wants to enjoy his or her life experience rather than suffer and be a victim of it, can travel at the speed of love. The only requirement is that you be open to loving life—your life—fully, and view everyone and everything as a learning opportunity for your soul. Yes, everyone and everything!

To love something doesn’t mean you have to like it, approve of it, or even desire it. It simply means to accept that this is what is happening, and if it’s not happening in a way that uplifts you, know that you have a choice in how to respond. You can be a victim of it or send it and yourself more love so that your response to it will transform into one that is proactive, creative, and ultimately right for you.

It is challenging to travel first class in life, as I’m sure you can think of many people and things you do not love. I’m not suggesting that you love being in pain, or love the awful and even evil things that can be a part of life, but rather that you love that you are alive, and that you respond to all your life experiences with love. Once you decide to love your life and accept it all with the choice to respond with love, you will never turn back and ride the coach class of fear again. Once you’ve experienced this more liberated and peaceful way of living you’ll want it, crave it, and insist that it’s the only way to fly.


This is an edited extract from Traveling at the Speed of Love by Sonia Choquette, available August 2010.

See Sonia live at I CAN DO IT! in Sydney & Perth August 2010. For details and tickets CLICK HERE.

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