How To Notice Grace Working In Your Life- Caroline Myss

Words used to define grace cannot fully express the power of grace. Grace-filled moments are present in all of our lives. They come and go unnoticed for what they are in terms of “grace,” though we recognise them as special for the end product of that grace.

For example, here are a few acts of grace that we may find in our everyday lives:

  • A reconciliation between you and someone you hold dear that you thought could never really happen is truly an act of grace.
  • Running into someone you haven’t seen in a long time who is especially dear to you is far more than a sweet coincidence; it is also an act of grace.
  • Remembering that “today” is someone’s birthday and realising how hurt that person would be had you forgotten is also an act of grace.

These are just small samples of the power of grace as it silently manoeuvres through your everyday thoughts, inspiring you to take action that always – always – has the healing or betterment of someone else’s life, or your own, as its intention. That you do not credit grace as the source of these inspirations is irrelevant.

Then there is the moment at which you pray for grace, directly, quietly, to come into your life. Usually this prayer is said during a time of need and it is then you might wonder, “What is grace? How will I know when this grace that I am asking for has arrived?” This is the point at which understanding the nature of grace becomes a matter of spiritual significance.

Grace is a mystical substance, not a mental idea or concept. As a mystical substance, it must be experienced to be realised or known. You cannot read your way into an understanding of grace or discuss your way into it or find a definition that finally opens that passageway into an experience of inner illumination. Grace makes itself known to you through prayer, through filling you with a sensation of tranquility that you cannot come to by telling yourself to “relax.”

To know grace fully and directly, you must turn inward. Consider, for example, the nature of joy. Telling someone who is sad to “imagine feeling joyful” is like telling someone who speaks only English to suddenly begin speaking Hindi. What exactly should that person imagine as she tries to “picture” joy? Poetry? Sunsets over Malibu? Being deluged with birthday presents? Is that the meaning of joy? If you lack a genuine experience of joy, then trying to imagine joy on the count of three or as a therapeutic exercise is preposterous. It cannot be done. Joy is a grace that you need to experience within the context of your life.

You have always lived within the field of your graces, of course, most likely unaware that you were drawing on the resources of grace as often as you do. Graces such as kindness, compassion, patience, and wisdom routinely arise in our interactions with others, but rarely in their fullest radiance. These graces filter into our lives as our finest personality characteristics. But despite the fact that people find these traits our most appealing traits, they are actually a dilution of the pure essence of grace. This is not unlike the way in which pure perfume is diluted in order to make cologne: The fragrance of the cologne is of the same essential substance, but it has much less intensity.

“Telling someone who is sad to “imagine feeling joyful” is like telling someone who speaks only English to suddenly begin speaking Hindi.”

Rituals of reason and knowledge are incapable either of acquiring such refined grace or commanding it. You can’t “go after grace”; it pursues you. Grace emerges out of your own inner work and the healing of dark passions. It comes through prayer and discovering that you thrive more on truth than on fear. Grace comes to you as you learn to rely on it, drawing on it as a primary resource within your thoughts and actions.

I’ve frequently asked people in my workshops, “When you are not distracted by ordinary thoughts, what do you naturally tend to think about?” Most people respond that their thoughts automatically drift into some negative harbor in their mind or heart, such as financial stress, relationship problems, unresolved emotional crises, health problems, job issues. Most people’s thoughts drift backwards. And if they do send their attention into the future, it tends to be for the sake of worrying over something that has yet to happen. I can’t recall a single person who told me that his or her thoughts naturally drifted to gratitude or to an inner reservoir of tranquility.

Our society is weighted in favours of what’s wrong, what’s in pain, and what’s missing in our lives, as opposed to what’s right and what is enough. No commercial has ever been made that has told the public, “You probably already have more than enough. What else do you need?” The decision to consciously “drift into a field of grace” acts against a raging psychic current in the collective unconscious that continually reinforces the negative in our lives. Because that psychic field is so strong, the choice to dwell in grace has to be reinforced again and again until it becomes second nature to you. And then your second nature will gradually take over and that grace will take hold.

This is an edited extract from Defy Gravity by Caroline Myss available at all leading retailers or online HERE. For a peek at what the book is all about, click on the video below.

Caroline Myss will be holding talks at I CAN DO IT! August 2010, along with Wayne Dyer, Gregg Braden, Sonia Choquette and Brian Weiss. Click HERE find our more and purchase tickets! DON’T MISS OUT.

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