Yes, you can change old habits! – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

People are forever using excuses as if they were actually true, holding them back from their goals, dreams and desires. Such statements as:

It would be very difficult for me to change . . .

If I changed, it would create family dramas . . .

I’m too old or too young to change . . .

I’ve always been this way . . .

… are all excuses that are used regularly without challenging the truth of these thinking habits. When you eliminate excuses that explain your shortcomings or failures, you’ll awaken to your infinite possibilities. Removing the excuses involves examining these thinking habits under a new and truthful light.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer tells us how to change lifelong, self-defeating thinking patterns that prevent you from living at the highest levels of success, happiness, and health. You may know what to think but find it terribly difficult to change thinking habits that have been with you since childhood.

1. What is the difference between a valid reason for something and an excuse?

Most of us think our genetic makeup as well as our family and cultural conditioning are valid reasons for why we are experiencing unhappiness, poor health, and lack of success in our lives. We may feel these have fixed or programmed us to think and behave in a certain way that we often find ourselves saying, ‘It’s in my genes’ or ‘That’s how I am. I’ve always been this way’.  But these so called ‘valid reasons’ only put you in a place of powerlessness; it keeps you stuck in an excuse-driven life.

Every self-limiting thought that you employ to explain why you’re not living life to the absolute fullest is something you can challenge and reverse, regardless of how long you’ve held that belief and no matter how rooted in tradition, science, or life experience it may be. Even if it seems like an insurmountable obstacle, you can overcome these thoughts, and you can begin by noticing how they’ve been working to hold you back. Then you can embark on a de-programming effort that allows you to live an excuse-free life, one day at a time, one miracle at a time, one new belief at a time!

2. What are some of the more common excuses that hold people back?

There are basically two big excuses we all utilise. The first is the idea that our genetic makeup is the culprit—I can’t really help the way I am; after all, people can’t change their DNA. Studies in new biology, however, say that there’s an energy field surrounding, and contained within, all of your cells, and this field is influenced by your beliefs. Moreover, it is out of this field that all particles are created—it’s the sole governing entity of the body. Something like 95 per cent of us do not have genetic reasons for illness, depression, fear, or any other condition.

Here in the 21st century, science invites you to stop believing that you’re a victim of your genetic makeup, because a large body of evidence demonstrates empirically that your beliefs can change your genes. I encourage you to examine this mind-bending idea at greater depth than I’m able to offer here. There’s an invisible part of you that you can call intelligence, higher function, Tao, thought, belief, Spirit, God . . . you choose.

The second big excuse is rooted in your early history and family conditioning. It impacts you in so many ways that you probably feel it’s an impossible-to-be-free-of aspect of your life. Kiss this one good-bye as well. Just because you’ve been infected with repetitive beliefs and attitudes that feel like second nature, doesn’t mean you’re unable to disinfect yourself and reprogram your inner world.

The truth, as I see it, is that everything you think, say, and do is a choice—and you don’t need to think, speak, or act as you’ve done for your entire life. When you abandon making choices, you enter the vast world of excuses.

3. How can people retrain their brains to let go of excuses?

In my book I detail seven questions that allow people to challenge and change their lifelong, self-defeating thinking patterns. For instance one question asks, ‘What’s the payoff?’ Your answer to this will give you insight into the reward system you’ve carefully constructed. It’s the reason you can reach into your bag of excuses and pull out some real gems whenever it’s convenient. And the fact that these thought patterns have been with you for most of your life makes them almost automatic responses.

Take a moment now to reflect on why your thoughts might sustain behaviors that don’t serve your highest ideals. William Wordsworth, the insightful English poet, once remarked: “Habits rule the unreflecting herd,” with herd being used as a pejorative term for thinking like everyone else. Your goal is to disrupt those habits that have led you to act like just one more member of the obedient pack, and that requires a new kind of understanding. Such understanding may be more accessible now than in the first part of your life, which was when you tended to form and accumulate your habits.

4. How long does it take for people to change their old ways of thinking and eliminate excuses?

However long it takes for them to be willing to change their self-limiting beliefs. Whatever it is that you’d like to accomplish, be it becoming an artist, creating your own musical composition, starting a new business, repairing your relationship with your parents or spouse or anyone else, building a new home, getting into physical shape—anything at all—how would your world change if you couldn’t even conceive of the idea that it would be difficult and/or take a long time?

Rather than focusing on what you can’t do because it’s difficult and takes a long time, you’d think like this: This is definitely something that I can and will create for myself. I know I can do anything I put my mind to. I anticipate that this is within my ability to readily accomplish. I have no fear, because I recognise that whatever guidance and assistance I require is available. I’m excited, thrilled, and elated about fulfilling this dream. I realise that the thoughts I have are meshed with enthusiasm and passion, and that nothing can stop me. In fact, I’m certain that whatever I need to actualise my dreams is already on its way. I contentedly watch for what the universe sends me.

5. What sort of results have you seen from working with people who are willing to let go of their excuses?

I’ve seen many people living a more content, fulfilled and purposeful life. They now bask in the belief that they possess all of the physical and intellectual abilities they could ever need. Their lives flow naturally from a position of supreme confidence in themselves and their God-given, natural abilities. They take risks and are capable of trying anything, content with whatever results come out of it. They exude courage because they’d be unable to manufacture doubtful thoughts that manifested as excuses. They now never compare themselves to others or evaluate their abilities on the basis of what others do—how they measure up to the performance levels of others would have no bearing on them or what they attempt.

Excuses Begone! How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer is available at all leading retailers.

See Wayne W. Dyer  at his farewell tour of Australia at I CAN DO IT! For tickets and more information CLICK HERE.

WIN! We are giving away a Wayne W. Dyer book pack to the best response to the question: ‘What excuse have you eliminated from your life, and how has your life changed without that excuse?’ Leave a response.

2 Responses to “Yes, you can change old habits! – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer”
  1. This is a wonderful article! Identifying limiting belief systems changes lives- as it has mine! I had a suitcase full of excuses I used to hold myself back (My view doesn’t count, I’m destined to have cancer because it’s in my family, You have to be ‘lucky’ to have money, You can never trust anyone but yourself, I am unworthy of love..). Like most of us, my list went on & on! It made perfect sense with beliefs like these, why I never had any money! I had no boundaries & couldn’t speak up for myself! Love came into my life & flowed out just as quickly.. and even when I managed to keep love I sabotaged it. I was twice divorced with 3 children, depressed & feeling hopeless about my life being any different.
    As a last resort, I saw a ThetaHealer, who helped me identify the limiting beliefs & change them. THe change was dramatic & instant! I left a job I hated, married my soul mate, my health is amazing & my abundance is improving every day! I now teach ThetaHealing & help clients change their beliefs one on one. It is wonderfully satisfying work 🙂 Thank you Wayne Dyer for spreading the word on the amazing power of changing beliefs so powerfully & beautifully! I will be sharing copies of this with my clients!

    • hayhouseoz says:

      Thanks again Tracy! Great to see someone so open about their experiences in life. We will be sending you a pack of Wayne Dyer goodies!! Please do spread the word about his book EXCUSES BEGONE! We know that it has helped many people overcome their self limiting beliefs and opened themselves to their unlimited potential. Thanks once again!

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